Dear Lovely Reader,
A Friday question for you.
Are you above or below the line?
I work with many different types of clients.
Founders and CEOs of venture-backed tech companies.
Leaders of charities and social enterprises.
Owners and MDs of family businesses and creative businesses.
My main role is to listen, help them understand the root of their challenges and issues, and then support them to create a new way forward.
With each client this takes different forms: different styles of conversation, different types of processes, different frameworks.
There is one tool however which every single client leaps on, loves, pins up behind their desk, tattoos on their hand.
They use it at work and in their home life.
So I offer it to you.
Yes, a line.*
And then the question: are you currently above or below it?
Above means you are curious, open, and committed to learning.
A mindset that leads to collaboration, community and ease.
Below means you are closed, defensive, and committed to being right.
A mindset that leads to stress, stagnation and silos.
And the truth is we are always going below the line.
Something happens: a project goes wrong, your team doesn’t perform, a child is difficult, your partner makes a comment.
We see a threat.
We go below the line and either fight or shut ourselves down to survive.
We recede into the narrowest part of our brain.
And ha! We make things worse!
So my clients learn to ask themselves in any moment: am I below or above the line?
They pause. They notice.
Then they can choose to shift.
To a place of creativity, problem solving and wisdom.
An expansive place rather than a diminished place.
This is a constant daily practice.
So how do we shift?
How? How? How?!
Notice first. That is half the work.
Then below I offer some shifting practices to experiment with.
And I leave you with the question:
What would it be like if you, your company, your family, the world noticed where they were and shifted?
Have a wonderful weekend,
* The “line” is the foundational tool of the Conscious Leadership Group. All credit to them.